Men...

...I can't live with them and I can't live without them seems to be the saying as of late. I haven't had a steady boyfriend since mid-February, but dated a few different guys over the last few months. Some better than others and some that didn't just click at all. On top of dating my ex's from past have decided to want to contact me out of the blue for whatever their reasons may be - mostly to say the miss me and want me back. I have talked to them, but not often. That's not a path I want to go down again with either of them and if I start chatting too much then I might find myself getting attached again. It took me a long while to get over the one and the last thing I need is to be hurt by him again.

Through the guys I have dated whether it was long term or short term I learn a lot quicker if new guys are not going to be right for me. I'm content with being single right now, but I cannot tell a lie as I do wish I could find someone to love me for me and all of me. Not just the parts they see or pick and choose what they like of me. I want the guy in for the good, the bad, and the ugly.

My friend Stacy is constantly looking for me to find someone. She sees who I am and that's great, but I don't know if I want to be set up. I guess it can't hurt to try as all of the guys I have met through her have been great. I tend to be kind of picky and that's my flaw. I am trying to be less picky because we all have flaws. I'm also very head strong and stand up for what I believe in and if a man has too much baggage then it is not going to work out either. Two recent guys that I had (had being the keyword) been seeing had to many ex issues. I call it "ex"cess baggage. It is too hard to make a relationship work when their ex is a part of the equation. I could care less if she is upset about us going out on a date, but I do care when you pick up that damn cell phone to text her back to calm her down. This is "our" time to be together so if you want to spend time on your cell phone you should have just stayed home.

Dating was so much easier when cell phones weren't involved. I get annoyed with cell phones very easily. If mine is ringing too much I dislike it and seriously hate it when I am on a date. I have the common decency to turn mine off when I am out with a guy, but do they? Of course not. Might miss that all important text from your ex. Most calls and texts can wait. When you are getting to know someone I think it is best to let some rings go.

I don't have a specific type of guy I like. I just want some commonality in the relationship. We do not have to like all the same things because frankly that could get boring, but I do want us to share some passions together whether it would be football, Nascar, music, etc. I don't want us to hang out and his idea of fun is playing video games. Been there, done that. I'm not the jealous type, but if you give me a reason to be jealous then you will hear something out of me. I don't mind if he wants to hang out with his friends and me with mine, but I do want us to combine hanging out with each others friends. I don't want a relationship where all we do is hang out with each other and distant our friends. I have lost a lot of friends to relationships like that. I don't ever want to be a person that does that to my friends. It is rude.

I'm not going to look too hard and if I find someone along the way that's great, but I'm enjoying my summer and having fun. Hopefully Mr. Right doesn't wait too long to grab me and get my attention.